Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. Rumi In order to change unhealthy behaviour, we have to first acknowledge to ourselves that the behaviour is unhealthy. We have to say to ourselves, “What I have been doing all along is hurting me, or those around me.” This can be frightening, because to acknowledge that we have been wrong is to see the past as a...
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Sometimes I cannot make a decision, especially when it seems like there’s no good choice. How to make the right decision? Can you please help me improve my decision making ability? Thanks KG
Mumbai Dear KG, I am reminded of the time when a therapy client said to me, “The time for inaction is over,” and then added, “I will make my decision tomorrow.” I knew that he would say the same thing...
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Speaking the truth is not always easy, and may not always be the right course of action either. The ambiguous nature of the moral order of the universe first became apparent to me when I first heard the famous story of Krishna’s role in the death of Drona. If you want to refresh your memory, the wiki article is here , but the broad details are as follows: Drona is plundering through the Pandava troops,...
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Dream all you want. But put it to action. Many people die with their dreams still in their heads and hearts. My “someday” never happened, they would tell us. Why do so many people wait? What prevents people from acting on their dreams? Most people cite practical obstacles such as the lack of money or time. “I am too old now.”
“I am too young, I need experience.”
“I need to save more...
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