Tag: Self-Actualization

The Running Man

Does it seem that you are running from morning to night, always running, in pursuit of your dreams? Do you have to do that? Can you achieve your goals without running? [wonderplugin_video iframe="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t62Za1BxmXQ" videowidth=600 videoheight=340 keepaspectratio=1 videocss="position:relative;display:block;background-color:#000;overflow:hidden;max-width:100%;margin:0 auto;"...
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The Clearing

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. Rumi In order to change unhealthy behaviour, we have to first acknowledge to ourselves that the behaviour is unhealthy. We have to say to ourselves, “What I have been doing all along is hurting me, or those around me.” This can be frightening, because to acknowledge that we have been wrong is to see the past as a...
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The River

When you find yourself, you will not find an object. You will not find something that you can point to and say, “This is who I am.” When you find yourself, you will find a flowing...
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Brief Encounters with the Zen Master #3

Q: What is my purpose? I do this and I do that but I don’t know what I really want do. A: Follow your heart and you will find your purpose. Q: Man, seriously? That’s all you got? That was my fortune cookie last week. A: I found my truth in a hallmark...
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Difficult Decisions

Sometimes I cannot make a decision, especially when it seems like there’s no good choice. How to make the right decision? Can you please help me improve my decision making ability? Thanks KG Mumbai Dear KG, I am reminded of the time when a therapy client said to me, “The time for inaction is over,” and then added, “I will make my decision tomorrow.” I knew that he would say the same thing...
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Your Someday is Today

Dream all you want. But put it to action. Many people die with their dreams still in their heads and hearts. My “someday” never happened, they would tell us. Why do so many people wait? What prevents people from acting on their dreams? Most people cite practical obstacles such as the lack of money or time. “I am too old now.” “I am too young, I need experience.” “I need to save more...
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What Motivates Us

I recently read Daniel Pink’s thought provoking book, “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.” If you can’t get your hands on the book, check out Dan Pink’s TED talk on the same topic. Here’s the link. In his book, Pink reminds us that we are not motivated by the old school carrot and stick approach. Instead we are motivated in an environment that allows us the opportunity to express...
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